i have a concrete plan for my life.
i will be engaged to alex for 5 years. this will be confirmed as i will be accepting the ring.
why 5 years? the timeline for dawson to complete.
why dawson? good investment, central location, near town
why alex? what if you meet someone better in the 5 years? depends on how 'better' is defined.
better as in better standard of living? i have my own financial plans. he is also willing to spend on me w/o complaints. (good food & presents) what is the point of marrying to a rich husband if he is constantly scrimping & on a budget. i won't feel good spending his money.
'better' as in treat me better? this is a risk which i will have to take. however, with such promises in standard of living, taking cabs as transport is not a problem. how about emotionally? well at least we click, connect, share jokes, and i feel relaxed in his presence. important as i feel stress in the atmosphere easily.
'better' as in stability? what kind of stability? businessman with low certs? no. i'd rather my husband be a grad, then in case if there's a financial crisis (touch wood!) we'll at least be able to depend on his cert.
i have mapped out my life thus far:
from now 2010 to 2015, i will work full-time, and own a $4,000 engagement ring. i will focus on career, family, keeping to a good wife image, and making money from main & side income.
from 2015 onwards, i will be 28 years old, married to a 33 year old nus grad (who has a rich dad), be a housewife, own a Dawson property, car, and earn money from side income.
since i'll be at home daily, i'll have ease monitoring the stock market. also i'll probably have a small purchasing business of my own.
by this time i'm already 28, will not worry about my opportunity costs of potential persuers, and will not worry so much that he will anyhow cos he will be 33yrs old & old uncle already. even if anyhow (touch wood!) he'll confirm be more committed to me & the family. i am triply-ensured that i'll have good quality of life because:
1. with age & work experience comes more money for him (he'll be 33yrs old then!)
2. he owns a degree
3. he has a rich dad
4. income = main income from him + earnings from stock market and side business
5. no stress for me as i do not need to report to work (no stress= better living)
6. time for myself
the money put aside will be for my parents' and grandma's health & enjoyment purposes. of course if there's more, it will rollover to my child's education.
best part of this life plan?
i'll be married to a guy i like, not some rich old uncle.
worth it. very worth it.