REMINDERS TO TRUST!
From what you've written, he hasn't done anything (that he can control) to lose your trust. I think you're worrying too much about him cheating and that it's unnecessary. Honestly, if I had a girlfriend that CONSTANTLY worries about me cheating I would be annoyed too. You need to tone that down before he decides he can't put up with it any longer and considers leaving you.
If you really love him you will need to work out your jealousy issues before you permanently sabotages your current relationship. I don't know what happened in your previous relationships, but he's a new guy that deserves a clean slate. Don't unfairly punish.
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I think that you should get over your fears before entering or continuing a relationship. All that extra baggage will just end up in a fail relationship. Just because one guy cheats, doesn't mean all of them do. If you keep acting like he's cheating on you, eventually he will or just get really fed up and leave you.
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trust is a two way street!
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Trust isn't something that just lands in your lap, it is an active, participating, deliberate intent. Trust is a decision, not a reaction to incoming events. Trusting is an active, participating, deliberate intent, that you yourself "decide to" feel, rather than feel on the basis of circumstances "making you" feel trusting.
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I understand where you're coming from, but based on what you've written, it doesn't seem like you have anything to worry about. He hasn't given you any reason to not trust him, has he? If not, then don't worry about it so much. I'm sure everything is fine. :]
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i think these days it's tough to trust a guy, because there are so many unfaithful men our there. and really when you feel that sense of distrust, the best way to often fix that is a strong sense of communication in both parties. and when i mean communicating, i don't men giving an attitude, yelling or anything. just talk about how you feel in a calm manner. sometimes his words may help sooth that horrible feeling you have.
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If you are going to break up with him, you should break up so that you can deal with your issues first, not b/c he's shown a predilection to cheat. Otherwise, this trust problem is gonna crop up with every relationship, not just this one. And from an objective view of your account of last night, I think your comment came off as nagging and complaining instead of romantic or loving. You should relax and enjoy the quiet nights that you do get with him. :)
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Past relationships ending badly have added on to my trust anxiety. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year and I still can't seem to shake the feeling that he just might mess around behind my back. But I have NO reason whatsoever to think the way I do. He's been nothing but completely honest and awesome and it's alot of my own securities that get in the way. He is tired of me being like this saying that if he's been with me this long, why would he bother to cheat, that this should mean something, that this should show how much I mean to him. It's really hard to get over feeling the way we do. But it is something you have to work on and something maybe your boyfriend needs to help you work on also. Like someone said, it's a two way street. Working together to make the relationship work can be rewarding. In my situation, I need to get over my insecurities and anxiety and just enjoy being with my boyfriend and he also needs to be a little more understanding and supportive. We're still working on it, but I know that we love each other too much to let past issues affect a future we could have together :)
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dont let things go so long without telling him how you feel. let him know you don't think HE'S the one who has done anything wrong, but that you just have a hard time trusting anyone in general and you need him to understand that and help you learn to trust him.
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Your whole judgment of whether he can be trusted or not is based on circumstantial things that have nothing to do with him, himself.
Just because he gets annoyed with you doesn't mean he doesn't love you, either. You're just too suspicious of him. Also if you don't compare yourself to your mother you shouldn't compare your boyfriends to your father... the chemistry will always be different. And wanting to be around him all the time could annoy him, because most people need their own personal space outside of the prying eyes of their possibly insecure & suspicious SO.
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if he hasn't done anything to lose your trust, and yet you don't trust him anyway just because you compare him to your ex(quite unfairly, I might add) ... you're going to drive him away with your insecurities.
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ive seen alot of friendsgo through this. Best thing to do is give him some space. let him miss you. hell def show you how much he cares. dont completely ignore him but give him some room to breathe. i know itll be hard because you love him so much but being clingy does get annoying. (sorry to say it).
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I think what you need to do is get your priorities laid out first. He hasn't done anything that would result in losing your trust. If you say that you feel the need to be around him almost all the time and he is getting a litle annoyed with it, give him some space. There are times when he would need space to himself or at least catch up with other people in his life. You should also use that time to do the same. Also, you're making yourself paranoid about every little thing. Don't overaalyze everything, otherwise, of course it's going to ruin it. Enjoy the time you guys spend together and don't get so worked up.
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Has he earned your trust? No two people are alike. Have you asked about his past? Ex girlfriends? Cheating? Talk to him. He is your boyfriend; you should be able to tell him how you feel. Tell him the truth, you never trusted men because of what ex did.
Sounds to me like you are just scared to be in love, because you will get hurt. Trust works both ways. You just need to talk to him.
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To the blogger: You have to learn to trust, otherwise ALL your relationships are doomed to failure. If he's hinted that he's going to marry you, that's a pretty big commitment and shows that he thinks you are very much part of your long-term future. As other posters have said, dont tar your current boyfriend with the issues and situations that other, different people have had. That's unfair, and is a recipe for disaster.
From what I've read, you'd be nuts to break up with him if you both are in a loving relationship with the only issue standing between you is the fact that you cant (wont?) trust. Without trust, you will find that it is impossible to maintain any sort of longterm relationship. In my book, trust is the cornerstone of any relationship, and without it either party is going to be in a world of hurt, anguish and despair.
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